Monday, July 17, 2017

Stay At Home Date Night: DIY Couple's Massage

Do you ever feel like you'll never quite catch up with your ever growing to-do list? As our moving day looms closer and closer, I feel like I keep thinking of more and more things that need to get done. I need to clean the house top to bottom so that we make sure to get our cleaning deposit back, I need to verify that all of our utilities will be turned off in Nevada on the right date and turned on in Arizona on the right date, I need to look at more carpet samples and try to make a decision on which one we like, I need to confirm times with the moving company... You get the idea. And Brad's to-do list is much longer than my own. On top of all of his moving tasks, he's still working full time and wrapping up all of his last projects. So to say we're busy is an understatement.

We're finding that our time spent together is mostly all business. Who is going to call the lender and make sure that the final documents are ready to go so that our loan goes through? Who is going to check in with the realtor about doing a final walk through via skype? Who is going to pick up the tacos for dinner, because I'm sure not cooking tonight (that last one is only sort-of a joke).

So it's become more difficult to connect in a meaningful way. That's why I'm extra excited to share with you a fast way to reconnect after a busy day that will help you to relax and rejuvenate together. Give each other massages using massage lotions or oils. I received oils in exchange for my honest review. All opinions are my own. 

Stay at home date night idea couple's massage


Recently, we tried the doTERRA Aromatouch Massage Kit. At first I was a little nervous about so many smells in one massage, but the kit is so well planned and thought out that the different scents in the oils blend really well together. The kit comes with massage techniques, which was great since we didn't really know what we were doing. We enjoyed both the full body massages and the hand massages.

Today, I'll be sharing how to do a full body AromaTouch massage with your spouse. (You can see images for each movement and watch videos on how to do each movement HERE). If you are using doTERRA oils, you will do different oil introductions at various points, so follow the kit instructions. If you are using other oils or lotions, these motions still make for a great massage!

doTERRA AromaTouch Kit DIY Couples Massage

First, perform three clockwise palm circles. You palms will move together in a clockwise circle three times across the hard area of the upper back.

Next, perform the alternating palm slide three times on each side of the back. This motion should be done on the opposite side of where you are standing. Palms should slide from the spine to the side, beginning at the lower back and alternating hands until you reach the crown of the head. Repeat three times, then transition to the opposite side and repeat the process.

Third, you will perform the 5 zone activation. This one is a little tricky to explain, and I definitely recommend watching the video. Basically, you will stand at the crown of the head, reach down to the recipient's tale bone and rub your hands along the spine to the crown of the head. Then you will return your hands to the sacrum, with hands slightly further away from the spine pulling hands up and then along the shoulders. Repeat for all 5 zones (moving hands out further each time).

Auricular stress reduction comes next. Grip each ear lobe between your thumb and forefinger, working your fingers in small circles along the ear to the top. Then, slide your thumb along the back of the ear to return to the lobe. Repeat three times.

Repeat the Alternating Palm Slide and the 5 Zone activation twice.

Perform the thumb walk tissue pull. Your thumbs move along either side of the spine in circular motions from the lower back to the crown of the head. Repeat three times.

Repeat the alternating palm slide, the five zone activation, and the thumb walk tissue pull.

Moving to the feet, perform a regional tissue pull by using your thumbs in a circular motion, and massaging the foot from heel to toe in a zig-zag pattern. Next, on the same foot, perform the pinpoint zone activation.  Basically, you press your thumbs (alternating) from heel to each of the 5 toes. Perform the 5 zone tissue pull on the same foot. To do this, run your thumbs three times from heel to each toe.  

Repeat these three steps on the opposite foot.

Perform the alternating palm slide one last time.

Perform 3 clockwise palm circles.

Finish by performing the lymphatic movement. Slightly lift the recipient's legs off the table and rock him back and forth for 15-30 seconds. Repeat three times.

DIY Massage


Let me tell you, this is one amazing massage. We felt much more legit than just rubbing each other's backs. And it was nice to be able to connect physically and emotionally after such a busy and hectic time. We will definitely be adding DIY massages to our list of Stay-At-Home-Date Ideas.

If you are interested in an Aromatouch Kit, make sure to get in contact with Leslie, our Doterra representative. You can find her on Facebook, Instagram, or her Doterra site.

Stay At Home Date Idea Couple's Massage



Friday, June 30, 2017

Revive Date Night Link Up

I seriously can't believe that June is basically over! I'm still not totally sure where the month went. It was a fun filled month where we celebrated our anniversary, took a trip to Seattle, and tried to stay out of the 115 plus degree weather! In all, it was a great month and our focus on #ReviveDateNight really helped us to get out of our date night rut! We had some really great dates including our Color Date, eating at the top of the Space Needle in Seattle, seeing Mystere by Cirque du Soleil, making homemade pizzas, and hosting a group date. Now we just need to chug forward and not fall back into old patterns.


I'm especially excited about our Date Box Swap to keep us on a high note when it comes to date night. If you signed up with me, you should be assigned your partner and you've hopefully heard from them and are exchanging emails in preparation for the big swap in August! And if you missed sign ups, don't worry... I'll be hosting another swap for the holidays!


And now, I'm excited to invite you all to link up your own #ReviveDateNight posts! Please share anything and everything that you and your spouse are doing to make Date Night a priority! I can't wait to read all of your posts and get good ideas to keep the love alive through regular date nights!

And make sure to visit Justine and Amberly to see how they #ReviveDateNight




Friday, June 23, 2017

Revive Date Night with a Couple's Getaway

This month has been all about #ReviveDateNight and I have loved sharing and learning together about ways to get out of date night ruts and reconnect with your spouse. 

For me, the number one sure fire way to rekindle that spark in marriage and get out of a major rut is to have a little get away, just the two of us. It can be a little stay cation, or a full blown 5 day trip away. The key is that you just need to leave behind all distractions (kiddos included... hard as that can be), and devote some time to just each other. 

Last week, we were able to make a trip to Seattle and it was absolutely perfect. It was right around our anniversary, so we made it an anniversary trip. I'll be sharing more specifics of the trip over the next two weeks, but for today I just wanted to share some pictures from the trip along with reasons why I think a couples get away is so important. 


The main hesitation I hear about making a little getaway happen is finances. You'd rather spend the money on a family vacation or you feel guilty spending it on yourself. I'm here to tell you that it's worth the investment and it doesn't have to be extravagant (though there's nothing wrong if it is). And I definitely don't think a couple's getaway should replace your family vacation. It's totally possible to prioritize both. 


So let's start with the why of why I think it's important to budget this in. At home, we get caught up in the day to day grind of things. Are conversations are mostly centered around who's going to pick up the dry cleaning, what time we need to leave to make it to the work party, how many watermelons I need to buy to the neighborhood service project, etc. Even during date night we'll be guilty of talking "business" more than anything. But if you do something out of the ordinary and get out of that routine, you'll find that other conversations will flow more easily. Goals and dreams. Hopes for the future. Silly and romantic conversations. You'll talk to each other like you did while you were dating. 

Now, I'm not saying you should just throw caution to the wind and make a getaway happen if it's not in the budget. Be wise and do what you can. If you can't make a few nights away happen, find a local hotel in your own city.  If that's even too much, pitch a tent in your own back yard. Just do something that will break the routine and let you focus on your spouse again. 

And now, for what I think is the even more difficult issue of leaving kids behind. I had SUCH a hard time leaving my little one this time around. I mean, super hard. I actually cried. A few times. And by the end of the trip, Brad and I were both super ready to all be back together again. But I still think it was so good for us to take the time and get away. To make it a little easier on you and the kiddos, here are some tips: 
 - Leave some fun things for the kids to do behind when you go. 
 - FaceTime with them as much as you want during the day. 
 - If you'll be gone multiple days, consider switching things up for them around the half way point. Our little gal stayed with my mom for the first two days and my in laws for the second two days. It helped her a lot to have a change of scenery, new toys, and new cousins to help her not be sad. 
 - Send a post card home.
 - Do something extra fun when you get home. 
As much as parenting is a full time job and a major responsibility, I believe that nurturing your marriage is just as important. We were able to focus on just the two of us for a few days and rekindle the love we share. And you know what? We were even better parents when we got home. 




After our little getaways, Date Nights improve, our conversations improve, and our relationship is even better than before. I'd say that's worth it. 

So what do you think? Is a couple's getaway worth it to you?


Tuesday, June 20, 2017

6.21.13: A Unique Engraved Anniversary Gift

Tomorrow will mark 4 years of marriage for me and Brad. In some ways, it's hard to believe that we've been married that long, but in other ways (good ways), it feels like we have been together forever. And I suppose that in some ways, we have.

Darby Elizabeth Photography

Generally for our anniversaries, we swap the traditional gifts. For the first (paper) anniversary, I made a Love Notes journal that we pass back and forth. The second (cotton), I made a sock bouquet (Brad is obsessed with argyle socks). For the third (leather), I bought a leather journal. I'll be sharing this year's traditional gifts later in the week, but I also wanted to do something a little extra for Brad this year. It's been a bit of a crazy year, and I wanted something meaningful and useful.
A big thanks to Jord for sponsoring this post. All opinions are my own.


I learned a few months back that Jord Wood Watches is now offering engraving on the backs of their watch faces. And I've been wanting one for Brad ever since. I love how meaningful something as simple as engraving can be. I chose the watch I wanted quickly and without much trouble. I knew that I wanted something in a dark wood and with a round face, so that was no trouble at all. I went with the Hyde in walnut and black and I am absolutely in love.

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I had a much more difficult time choosing what to have engraved on the back. I knew that I wanted it to reflect our marriage. I considered a few words from our song. I considered something like "love you forever." I even thought of doing something more punny... "love for all time." But eventually, I settled on something very simple. Our wedding date.

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I'm in love with how the engraving turned out. I love that it's a constant reminder for Brad of the day that started it all. To me, our wedding date is a symbol of choosing each other. It's the day we made sacred promises or vows to always love and care for each other. It's the day that we committed to give our whole selves to another person--the person. The day that we said it's forever.

Which is why I'm so pleased with this unique gift for Brad. It says so much while saying so little. It's just what I had hoped it would be. So if you're in the market for a unique gift, make sure to check out Jord Wood Watches. They have amazing selections of both men's watches and women's watches that will be sure to impress. And the option to engrave makes these wood watches an even more special gift.

Brad loves his watch and I was so glad that it was ready to go earlier than I had anticipated! I was able to give it to him on our Seattle getaway, which made for the perfect surprise!



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Jord is generously offering one of you lucky readers a $100 credit to their store! You can enter to win HERE, and everyone who enters will receive a $25 off code, just for entering. The giveaway will close July 9, 2017 at 11:59pm. Both the $100 and the $25 codes will expire on October 29, 2017.

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Do you like to give meaningful anniversary gifts? Do you follow the traditional gifts each year? 


Luxury Wooden Watch

Friday, June 16, 2017

How To Plan a Color Theme Date Night

One of my favorite ways to get out of a date night rut is to have a themed date. Themed dates can be anything you want them to be: choose a letter of the alphabet and plan as many activities as you can that start with that letter, choose a country and make food from that region while listening to traditional music and following with an activity based on the culture, or choose a genre of music and create a date around that theme. 

The current theme date I'm planning is a color date! This one definitely stretched me, but when Justine told me that she was planning a color date, I was excited to jump on board. I decided to plan my date around the color blue. 



Of course, the date includes blue outfits. I feel like this is just an absolute must. 

Next, some blue flowers were practically required. I love blue flowers! Brad bought me some awhile back, and I had never seen anything like them before. 


From there, we will be headed to dinner at the Blue Iguana. It's a tasty Mexican Food joint, that we just can't say no to!


If you don't have a conveniently named restaurant near you, you could cook a meal at home and eat on blue plates. Either buy a cheap pack of disposable plates from a party store (seriously, they have every color), or buy nicer plates from the dollar store. If you don't want to buy blue plates, go with a simple blue table cloth! 

Dessert was a more difficult decision. I've settled on vanilla Blue Bell Ice Cream topped with fresh Blueberries! But making blue koolaid slushes was also very tempting. 


We're very excited about our blue date tonight! Grab yourself some blue shirts and join us! 
And make sure to visit Justine and Amberly today to see how they are helping you #ReviveDateNight


Friday, June 9, 2017

Revive Date Night with a Date Night Bucket List

You guys, I'm going to be fully honest. We have totally been in a date night rut recently. We've been making it happen, but we don't plan ahead and we often end up doing the same thing over and over... so we needed to make a change.


So for Date Night last week, we sat down and made a Date Night bucket list. It was a little hard at first... I told you, we're in a rut. We had a hard time coming up with some good ideas at first. But once we got some ideas flowing, we were able to come up with a pretty great list. I'm really excited about it too! We typed it up nicely and we're going to print it out and leave it posted on the fridge so that we can refer back to it easily and make sure that we are making the activities happen. This way, even if we haven't planned ahead well, we have some great ideas to choose from!

Here's a sampling of our Bucket List:

  • Make Homemade Ice Cream
  • See a Musical
  • Visit Fountain Hills
  • Go to a You-Pick Orange Grove
  • Take a Gondola Ride
  • Take a Couples Cooking Class
  • Visit a Museum
  • Do an Escape the Room
  • Have a Picnic and Make Kites
  • Host a Murder Mystery Party
  • Rent a Tandem Bike
  • Go On A Hike
  • Ride a Trolley in Old Town Scottsdale
I think making a bucket list was the best thing that we could have done for getting out of our rut. It made us think of different things that we could do rather than takeout and a DVD. Not that there's anything wrong with that every now and again, but let me tell you, it was getting pretty old... 

If you want to make your own Date Night Bucket List, here's a cute free printable that you can use!

Click HERE to Download



What do you do to get out of your date night ruts?

And don't forget to sign up for our Date Box Swap. Sign Ups close on Wednesday. And make sure to check out what Justine and Amberly have to say about reviving date night and remember to use #ReviveDateNight so we can follow along with your date ideas on Instagram! 


Wednesday, June 7, 2017

Date Box Swap

Hello lovelies! I hope you are all enjoying the beginnings of your summers and that you have plans to make all sorts of amazing memories. I wish for all of us that some of those memories include some awesome date nights! And to help with that desire, I'm excited to announce a new box swap that will help get you out of a date night rut, keep your date night mojo going, or just be a whole lot of fun for you and your spouse! Mainly, I think this is a perfect swap for our #ReviveDateNight series, because we will be swapping so many great date night ideas.

Date Box Swap

If you've never before participated in a box swap, let me explain the generals quickly before delving into the specifics of this box swap. You will be assigned a partner to get to know via email over the course of a month. At the end of that month, you will each mail each other a box of goodies. Here are the specifics on how this swap will work. After reading the specifics, if you can commit to participating fully, you can sign up to join the swap using the google form linked to at the end of this post. You do not have to blog to participate in this swap.

For the Date Box Swap, you will:

  • Be assigned a fellow wifey pen pal. You will receive an email from me with your partner's information on or before June 17th
  • Email your partner at least three times during the duration of the swap to get to know her. I recommend once a week or more. 
  • Mail your partner a Date Night In A Box valued between $20 and $35 (before shipping) that will arrive on or before August 4th. The sky is the limit on what you might send. The idea is to help each other come up with new and exciting date ideas. You might send a 2 player game that you and your husband adore. You might send all of the fixings to make gourmet s'mores at home while watching a favorite movie. You might send gift cards and some Dating Divas products. Seriously... these boxes can be anything. Just something that a hubby and wife can do together for their date night that you think your swap partner will love. 
  • Use #DateBoxSwap on social media if you are talking about the swap or posting images of your box so that we can all get ideas from each other. Tag @twobestfriendsinloveblog so that I can see all the fun you're having
  • If you blog, come back here and leave your Date Box Swap post in our link up on August 18th. If you don't blog, just come back and see all the fun goodies that everyone received. 
  • Have so much fun meeting a new wifey friend and helping each other get new ideas for date night!

If you think that this is the perfect swap for you and can commit to all of the requirements, come join us! To sign up for the Date Box Swap, please fill out this form HERE. Please only sign up if you can for sure send your partner frequent emails and mail her a date box by August 4th. Sign ups are open 6/7/17 through 6/14/17 and you will receive an email with your partner's info no later than June 17th.

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