Tuesday, August 27, 2013


I love Brad. 

I think we all know that. 

But today, I love him even more than I did yesterday. 
And tomorrow, I will love him even more than I do today. 

We are busy. 
Super duper busy. 
To give you an idea, everyone who knows or has been through law school as a spouse told me to give Brad a big kiss on Sunday and tell him that I would see him in three years when he was done. One of his professors told him that it would be silly to think that he could sleep 6 hours and still get all of the homework done that he would assign, and to just plan on being tired. Yet another law student told Brad that he usually didn't go home from the law library until around midnight every day. To give you another idea, I am finishing my degree online and have to balance 7 online class schedules with my own work schedule, keep the house up, get dinner ready, etc. 

What could be happening is that we just pass each other on our way to and from our classes, work, appointments, study plans, assignments at church, etc. What could be happening is that we become less and less familiar with one another. What could be happening is that we spend the first three years of our marriage wishing it away, ready to graduate and begin the "next phase."


What is happening is that we are learning to prioritize and schedule. What is happening is that we made a schedule and school ends at 6:30 for dinner together no matter what. What is happening is that we never miss an evening of couple scripture study or an early morning of personal scripture study. What is happening is weekly Temple attendance. What is happening is that we plan and have weekly date night and don't let anything else get in the way. What is happening is that these three years are becoming a great adventure that we will remember with many fond memories. 
Even if every conversation that I have with Brad now begins with "in this one case I read..."
At least he loves law school!

The Lord comes first. And we put each other as a very close second behind only Him. 

How many things can we put in the way of our marriages and families? How many good things demand our attention daily? How much time are we not only with our families, but present in their lives, free from our technology driven world? Are we choosing to do the best things with those we love? 

Brad and I obviously aren't perfect.
I think Brad is, but he just rolls his eyes when I say so... 

But, we do try. We try to remember the things that matter most. We try to appreciate all of the little things. We try to enjoy the journey today. 

"Most of us have more things expected of us than we can possibly do. As breadwinners, as parents, as Church workers and members, we face many choices on what we will do with our time and other resources (...) We have to forego some good things in order to choose others that are better or best because they develop faith in the Lord Jesus Christ and strengthen our families."


  1. Kailei, I love you for writing this. I think it could apply to ALL marriages, not just those in school or in the LDS community [as you know I am not]. Seeing it in friends and my own family really makes me realize how right you are to set the schedule and make time for daily and weekly events. I can only hope to have as good a marriage when my time comes. Thanks for the inspiration!

    1. Christina, I absolutely agree! I think that it absolutely applies to all marriages! Thanks for the great comment. It's so good to hear from you!

  2. Perfect! Yeah, our first semester married, Brian had a full schedule of classes, and then started working full time, which left him only closing shifts. So we left for school at 7am, and he came home around 10pm every night. But we made it work, with those simple things you listed! You guys are awesome! :)


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