Wednesday, April 13, 2016

On New Chapters

Next week is graduation week. And then moving weekend. And then vacation (hoozah)! And then intense bar study for Brad and some major summer fun for me and Kymri. (Sorry, Brad).

Which is why the blog might not be updated as frequently as it has been. I'm okay with that.

Anyways...

I have been a little sad recently thinking of leaving our Utah home. If you would have told me three years ago that this place would have such a big place in my heart, I would have said you were crazy. When we first moved here, I was basically counting down the days until we could move back to my beloved Arizona. But then everything happened. Brad and I started our life together. We had the smallest little apartment that you could imagine where we made so many incredible memories. Brad started law school. I finished my Bachelors. We went on miniature day trips. We made lifelong friends. We tried new things. We survived 9 months of sickness. We moved to the most perfect apartment. We brought our beautiful baby girl into the world. We witnessed her first year of life, which was absolutely amazing. We made even more lifelong friends.

And now, we will be leaving it all behind. Our first apartment. The apartment we brought Kymri home to. The friends that we have come to love so dearly.

As much as my home will be wherever Brad and Kymri are, it's hard to leave this home.

The next chapters in our lives are looking really exciting. To have school behind us is almost impossible to picture. Brad will have a full time career. We will buy a home. More kids some day. It's all every exciting and we are looking forward to all that life will bring. New chapters, new experiences.

But the trouble with new chapters is turning the page on old chapters. Thinking about how I'll never be able to take Kymri to see the hospital where she was born. Not being able to see our old, tiny apartment when we pass by on our way to the grocery store. Leaving friends. Leaving the home where Kymri learned to crawl and then take her first steps. New chapters. Turning the page on old. Fresh starts. New beginnings. Inevitable endings.

I'm not even sure where I'm going with all of this. But that's just everything that's going through my mind right now. So here's to turning the page. Watching the next adventure unfold. While still remembering the last chapter with great fondness. Because that's the great thing about chapters. The memories aren't left behind. As I pack up the boxes, I pack up those memories and tuck them away into my heart. And I will forever be grateful for this place, this home, and these memories.



Friday, April 8, 2016

BYU Law Barrister Ball

First off, if you're like me and aren't 100% sure what a barrister is, it's just a fancy pants word for attorney. Specifically, it is used in Britain to refer to an attorney who can argue in the higher courts. Most law schools host an annual Barrister's Ball to honor students. Brad and I weren't able to go last year because I was super pregnant and not feeling up to dancing the night away. We didn't go the year before either... though now I can't remember why... So we were absolutely determined to go this year. 


BYU's ball is a semi-formal event, so we were excited to try out our new digs. My eShakti dress was the perfect fit for the event, and I'm so looking forward to telling you all about Brad's custom suit from Magro Clothing. But seriously... men should own custom suits! More on that in a future post. 

Anyways... We had such a great time at the ball. It was held in the Marriott ballroom here in Provo. 

The food was amazing too! I had the chicken and Brad had the steak. Both were delicious, and the cheesecake? To die for. 

I won't go on and on gushing over Brad since that would just embarrass him completely. But I will say that it was an awards dinner, and Brad received two really special awards. I'm so proud of him and all the hard work he has put in the last three years. He has been an amazing student, and even more importantly, he has been the most amazing husband and father through all of the pressure of law school. I know, I said I wasn't going to gush and there I went. Promise, I held myself back. 

If dinner and dessert wasn't enough already, they had an ice cream cookie sandwich truck during the dance. We were totally stuffed, but you just don't say no to a warm cookie sandwich! They were seriously amazing. 



In all, it was a wonderful night. It was good to get out of the house, just the two of us, wear a totally non-nursing friendly dress, and celebrate all the accomplishments of this amazing man of mine by dancing the night away. 


A night of dancing was just what the doctor ordered for us! Everyone should go out dancing with their spouse. It's a great date, where you can talk and catch up while also being active and enjoying seeing each other all gussied up. 


Wednesday, April 6, 2016

Keep Trying--Free Printable

Update: I am so overwhelmed with the reaction to this printable! Thank you for visiting our blog! I hope that you enjoy this printable and that you can share it with others who might need a lift. For some free printables for General Conference Preparation, go HERE. 

I absolutely love General Conference. Every six months, I sit down and watch the most amazing men and women deliver absolutely inspirational messages. I learned so much and felt God's love so strongly. I wanted to share one of my favorite quotes from the weekend.


Most of my days are absolutely amazing. I love being a mother, staying home with my baby, and all that entails. But truthfully, there are some hard days as a mother.  It's not just mothers though. I think we all have hard days. I love the reminder that Heaven is on my side. God wants me to succeed. Not only is He cheering me on, He is coaching me through. Remembering that He is always there for me makes me want to try harder, keep moving forward, and become all that He intended me to become.



I am so grateful for living prophets and apostles who lead and guide us. I'm especially grateful for these words of encouragement to help me through when things are tough.


For more downloadable quotes, go HERE. 


Friday, April 1, 2016

To The Unsung Father: An Open Letter to Dads

There is a meme that has been going around the internet lately that really rubs me the wrong way. After I saw it for about the tenth time, I looked into the idea more. And there are TONS of memes bashing husbands and fathers. But it doesn't just stop with memes. My "mom group" on Facebook, which I love 90% of the time when they help out this first time momma, is suddenly husband bashing central. And have you watched any kind of television lately? The mom is basically rocking life while the father is portrayed as either stupid, incompetent, or uninvolved. Not sure you believe me? Check out this article from the Washington Post. Or a million other articles like it. Seriously. Google it.

I feel like we're all concerned about the mommy wars, female rights, and making sure to put motherhood on a pedestal while simultaneously bashing husbands and fatherhood.
And it hurts my heart just a little bit.

"My husband didn't replace the roll of toilet paper." "Well mine came home late from work for the third night in a row." "Mine doesn't even know how to turn on the dishwasher." Sound familiar?

Now, I know that there are poor fathers in the world. I'm not talking about the legitimately aloof fathers out there. I'm talking about the good dads who are getting ragged on for all of the things that they aren't doing when they are doing so many amazing things. Have we forgotten that we as mothers and fathers are on the same team?

So I want to recognize dads for all they do. I want to sing your praises. I want you to know that I do see all that you are doing and the great men that you are.
So here is my letter to you dads who are just totally rocking it. I hope you start getting a little more credit for all you do!


To the Unsung Father,

I'm sorry you have gotten such a bad rap from the media recently. I'm sorry for the women who are dragging you down. I'm sorry for the times I have played into that bad image. I hope you know that all the good things you do are noticed.

To the dad that works long, hard hours every day and then comes home to play even harder with the little ones: I see you. I know that you maybe don't have the strength for just one more pony ride, but you do it anyways. I know that the big game is on tonight. But you're at the tee-ball tournament of the year. I know that big deadline is approaching. But you wouldn't miss story time for the world. So to you I say, thank you. You'll get it all done. And the kids will be so glad that you chose them. You gave them time.

To the dad who takes his turns staying home alone with the kids so your wife can make a Target run without the littles: I see you. This may seem like no big deal to you, but your wife is reveling in a moment alone at the mecca of all shopping. I know that she only ran for a box of diapers and came home an hour later with a new pair of jeans, ten items from the dollar bins, some cute new home decor... and possibly forgot the diapers. But you just smile, give her a big kiss, and go to get some diapers. So thank you. Your wife appreciates it and the one-on-one time you had with your kids is priceless to them.

To the dad who is a living example of the Gospel of Jesus Christ: I see you. Not only do you read scriptures as a family, offer prayers of gratitude, seek God's direction, and worship together, you live your faith. You treat your wife with the love and devotion God intended. You help the stranger, lift up the friend that is having a hard time, and kiss tear streaked cheeks of little ones with skinned knees. Your kids will see these acts and know that you truly are a man of God. They will grow up in the light of Christ. So thank you. You are raising men and women of God.

To the dad that is scared and wondering if he is doing enough: I see you. The fact that you don't know what you are doing and strive to be better each day speaks volumes. There is no manual on fatherhood, but you get up every day and do your best. So thank you. Thank you for accepting the mistakes you make and recognizing that you don't know everything, but you know enough.

To the dad who is an equal partner with your wife: I see you. You counsel together with your wife and make parenting decisions together. You are involved, aware, and helpful. You and your wife work as a team to take care of the kids, keep the house in order, and provide for the family. Neither of you is better than the other. And you have created something beautiful together. So thank you for building a family that is based on love, mutual respect, and hard work. You're doing great things.

To the dad who was awake all night with a screaming baby: I see you. It's not just the moms who are up all night. I know you take your turn. I know that nothing seems to work. You've rocked the baby, sung songs, swaddled, bounced... and still he's awake. I know you have to wake up in a few short hours to be to work on time. I know that you were up late working on the finishing touches of that big report. And yet, here you are. Taking your turn. Being the dad. So thank you. Thank you for taking your roll as a father seriously and not being afraid to do the hard stuff. Thank you for sacrificing your own needs to help your children and your wife. Cuddle up with that little one, because this phase will pass all too quickly. And surprisingly, you will miss these sweet moments.

And to the dad who puts his marriage above all else: I see you. I see you taking your wife on a date every weekend. I see you come home from work and give her a hug and a kiss before you do anything else. I see you sitting and talking with her about her day, her dreams, her hopes, and sharing your own with her. I see you confiding in her and appreciating all she says. I see you holding hands as you go for a walk with the family. Your kids will see this. Knowing that you love their mother so much will bring confidence, peace, and joy into their lives. Your daughters will seek to marry men like you and your sons will seek to become men like you. So thank you. Thank you for loving your wife above all.

Your acts and efforts are not unnoticed. I see you. Don't get discouraged by the negative image of dads that the media portrays. Keep being more than a father. Be a dad. And a great one at that.

Thank you,
An Appreciative Mom

Fatherhood



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