Friday, June 2, 2017

Revive Date Night: 5 Tricks to Start Dating Your Spouse Again

When is the last time you and your spouse had a date? And how frequently do you make date night happen? Once a week? Once a month? Can you even remember? And if you are consistent with date night, do you ever feel like you're in a rut of doing the same thing over and over? That's the trouble we seem to have with date night. We're fully committed to making it happen every week, but we can get caught doing the same thing week after week. Usually these ruts consist of Take-Out and Netflix. And every now and again, there is nothing wrong with that. But when we do it week after week, it feels less and less like date night.



So if you're in a date night funk, haven't had a date night in months, or just need to switch things up a little bit, this post is for you! Today I am sharing 5 ideas to get back on the horse and really start dating your spouse again. Basically, these are things that are meant to jump start your dating routine by changing things up a bit.

1. Plan a Double Date.
This month I will be sharing some of our favorite double and group dates. I think that these are one of the best ways to get out of the date night funk. If you invite others and plan ahead, the date night will most definitely happen and you will do something outside of your norm. Chances are, you will also dress up and look your best, which always adds a necessary spark to date night.

2. Ask Your Spouse Out On A Date.
One of the ruts that we sometimes get into is just understanding that date night happens every Friday and not planning very well. So many times it will be Friday morning and one of us will ask "did you have anything planned for date night, or should I figure something out?" And then we will usually end up watching a movie after the little one goes down. While there is nothing wrong with this, it will lead to a date night rut if we do it over and over.

Now think back to before marriage, while you were dating. You would take turns planning out great dates where each of you would have a great time, you could reconnect, and maybe even impress each other a little bit. You would ask the other in advance to make sure they were free. For some dates, you even put a ton of effort into the asking... making a puzzle or game of it. So go back to those days. Take turns and each plan an extra special date. Ask ahead of time in a special way. Make it a bit of a surprise so that you can still give your spouse those gilts of excitement and butterflies.

3. Do Something A Little Crazy.
Doing something completely out of the ordinary will help you to get out of a date night rut. Spend a little more than you might usually, or nothing at all. The cost doesn't matter at all. What matters is that you make is something completely different. Go indoor skydiving. Take a 30 mile bike ride. Hike to a hidden water fall. Do an Escape the Room experience. Try a ropes course. Make a picnic and eat it on the roof. Just do something that will get you excited and create a change.

4. Buy Tickets In Advance.
There is something special about being able to look forward to an event together. For Christmas, we both bought the other tickets to musicals, and looked forward to them for months. Buy tickets to a sporting event, a show, a concert... even just a movie for the next weekend. Just buy them ahead of time so that you can look forward to something together. It also makes date night more exciting when you know you already have something lined up.

5. Create a Date Night Bucket List.
One of the easiest date night ruts to fall into is just simply not knowing what to do. You fall into a routine and do the same thing (read: Netflix) over and over. This seems to be an especial problem when you don't plan ahead and just fall back on your old stand-by. Enter the Date Night Bucket List. Making the list can become a date night on its own. Sit down together and come up with ideas of date activities that you would each like to do. Then when a weekend comes around when you don't have a plan for what to do, you can pull out your bucket list and choose something without any trouble.


I'm especially excited to tell you that I've teamed up with two of my favorite bloggers for a blog series this month all about Reviving Date Night. Justine, from Little Dove, Amberly from A Prioritized Marriage , and I are on a mission to help couples get out of date night ruts and really start to date each other again. Every Friday in June we will be posting ideas on how to revive date night. And make sure to follow along on Instagram where we will {spoiler alert} be hosting an amazing Date Night Giveaway along with even more ideas. We would also love to hear all of your ideas! Make sure to use #ReviveDateNight so that we can learn from each other and really bring back date night this month! Show us how you overcome obstacles like busy schedules, tight finances, kiddos, or anything else to make date night happen!




9 comments:

  1. This is such a great idea! I need to hop on board! I love the idea of reviving date nights and having something special to look forward to!

    Lisa @ Showered With Design

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    1. I look forward to date night all week long!

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  2. These are such great ideas. My husband and I are on opposite schedules so it's hard to not just throw everything we have to say at each other and just enjoy a night together. Great tips!

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    1. Working opposite schedules would be so hard! I bet date nights are extra special when you finally get to see each other.

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  3. I love your ideas! Especially about planning a double date and doing something crazy. I've been wanting to do lazer tag for awhile now, I mean, it's not really super crazy, just out of the norm for us!

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    1. Laser tag is so perfect though! Something out of the norm and definitely slightly crazy. I don't think I've been since high school! Great idea Justine!

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  4. This is such a great idea for a blog hop, and you have some wonderful advice in your post too! We definitely need to try carve out more time for date nights, it's not easy with two toddlers, haha!


    Hope you are having a wonderful weekend! :)

    Away From The Blue Blog

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    1. It's tricky with just our one toddler, so I bet it's extra difficult with two. But so worth the effort!

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  5. This is a timely article for me - my husband and I have our first date night in 1 year this Friday :) Some great tips here - I need to make it happen more often!!! Thanks for sharing :)

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