Friday, June 23, 2017

Revive Date Night with a Couple's Getaway

This month has been all about #ReviveDateNight and I have loved sharing and learning together about ways to get out of date night ruts and reconnect with your spouse. 

For me, the number one sure fire way to rekindle that spark in marriage and get out of a major rut is to have a little get away, just the two of us. It can be a little stay cation, or a full blown 5 day trip away. The key is that you just need to leave behind all distractions (kiddos included... hard as that can be), and devote some time to just each other. 

Last week, we were able to make a trip to Seattle and it was absolutely perfect. It was right around our anniversary, so we made it an anniversary trip. I'll be sharing more specifics of the trip over the next two weeks, but for today I just wanted to share some pictures from the trip along with reasons why I think a couples get away is so important. 


The main hesitation I hear about making a little getaway happen is finances. You'd rather spend the money on a family vacation or you feel guilty spending it on yourself. I'm here to tell you that it's worth the investment and it doesn't have to be extravagant (though there's nothing wrong if it is). And I definitely don't think a couple's getaway should replace your family vacation. It's totally possible to prioritize both. 


So let's start with the why of why I think it's important to budget this in. At home, we get caught up in the day to day grind of things. Are conversations are mostly centered around who's going to pick up the dry cleaning, what time we need to leave to make it to the work party, how many watermelons I need to buy to the neighborhood service project, etc. Even during date night we'll be guilty of talking "business" more than anything. But if you do something out of the ordinary and get out of that routine, you'll find that other conversations will flow more easily. Goals and dreams. Hopes for the future. Silly and romantic conversations. You'll talk to each other like you did while you were dating. 

Now, I'm not saying you should just throw caution to the wind and make a getaway happen if it's not in the budget. Be wise and do what you can. If you can't make a few nights away happen, find a local hotel in your own city.  If that's even too much, pitch a tent in your own back yard. Just do something that will break the routine and let you focus on your spouse again. 

And now, for what I think is the even more difficult issue of leaving kids behind. I had SUCH a hard time leaving my little one this time around. I mean, super hard. I actually cried. A few times. And by the end of the trip, Brad and I were both super ready to all be back together again. But I still think it was so good for us to take the time and get away. To make it a little easier on you and the kiddos, here are some tips: 
 - Leave some fun things for the kids to do behind when you go. 
 - FaceTime with them as much as you want during the day. 
 - If you'll be gone multiple days, consider switching things up for them around the half way point. Our little gal stayed with my mom for the first two days and my in laws for the second two days. It helped her a lot to have a change of scenery, new toys, and new cousins to help her not be sad. 
 - Send a post card home.
 - Do something extra fun when you get home. 
As much as parenting is a full time job and a major responsibility, I believe that nurturing your marriage is just as important. We were able to focus on just the two of us for a few days and rekindle the love we share. And you know what? We were even better parents when we got home. 




After our little getaways, Date Nights improve, our conversations improve, and our relationship is even better than before. I'd say that's worth it. 

So what do you think? Is a couple's getaway worth it to you?


3 comments:

  1. Definitely is. We've took a weekend trip away a couple months ago and it was so good for our marriage.

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  2. We are big fans of weekend getaways!

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  3. It looks like you guys had so much fun! I haven't been to Seattle in awhile, I'd love to go again, especially with Mike!

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